Order weekly mentoring sessions with Michael – $450/month
Order one hour crisis counseling session with Michael – $125/hour
If you’re reading this page, chances are you’re facing a crisis. Maybe you’ve been kicked out of your home, or you’re about to be. Your wife has given you the ultimatum – “I’m filing for divorce unless you do something about your porn habit.” or “…unless you stop the affairs.” or “…unless you stop spending all our money on prostitutes.” Maybe you lost another job because of your porn habit. Or you got busted by the police. Maybe you’ve just given up trying to stop because you know you can’t, and you’ve started contemplating suicide.
Whatever the reason behind your moment of crisis, you’ve come to the right place. That is, if you really want to get well and you’re willing to get help. Because I can help you. I’m your next step. And trust me when I tell you that the decisions that you make now could be the most important decisions you ever make in your life. That is, if you want to have a life.
Why do I say that? Because according to the Journal of Sexual Addiction and Compulsivity, about 97 out of 100 people getting help for their sexually compulsive or addictive behaviors by following traditional methods are NOT getting well. They’re NOT experiencing long-term sexual sobriety. And after spending the last 13 years in recovery from my own sexual addiction, and working with hundreds of men and their spouses who faced a similar struggle, I think I finally understand why.
“Traditional behavioral approaches to sexual addiction treatment have yielded poor results…a success rate as low as 2–3%.”
As one of the 2-3% who is living in freedom from his addiction every day, I’ve learned that success in recovery has less to do with WHAT you’re doing and more to do with WHO you’re doing it with. You need someone other than your spouse to come along side you and show you the way. You need a sherpa guide, a mentor, a coach.
After spending the last 13 years in recovery from a lifelong battle with pornography and sexual addiction, I’m now enjoying a life that’s far richer than I ever dreamed was possible. But along the way, especially in my early years of recovery, I made a lot of poor decisions and wasted a lot of time. It ended up costing me my marriage and family, all because i was trying to figure everything out on my own, without anyone walking alongside me who’d been down that road before.
FINDING A QUALIFIED MENTOR
I lacked a qualified mentor. Someone who could help me make good decisions, who knew firsthand what was lying around the corner. Someone who I could be accountable to and who would encourage me, or bust my chops and pull me out of the ditch when I started backsliding. Someone who wouldn’t have let me lie my way through countless meetings with counselors and therapists and pastors for the first two years of my recovery, a self-destructive detour that cost me my marriage. Someone who knows what “tough love” is really all about, and who can help me navigate my way out of the fog and back towards clarity of thought.
I didn’t have that in my life back then, when sexual addiction was a term most people had never even heard of. But now, I’m offering that to you. I’m offering to help you find your way out of the pit you’ve dug for yourself before it ends up costing you everything like it did me.
In terms of my credentials, and in addition to 13 years of first hand experience, I am also certified by the International Association of Certified Counselors and Sexual Addiction Specialists as a Pastoral Care Sexual Addiction Specialist (PCSAS). In fact, I sit on their Board of Directors and am one of their certified national trainers.
However, because of other time demands, I can only work with a few people individually at a time.
So if you’re serious and ready to get well, call me directly at 678-357-5779 and let’s talk.
As far as cost, I charge $450 per month in advance for 4 weekly counseling and mentoring sessions. That’s about the same money that you’d be spending going to a qualified sexual addiction counselor in your area, assuming you can find one. I also ask that you commit to a minimum of 6 months. However if you come upon economic hardship midway and can’t continue as planned, you are free to stop your sessions at any time.
The point here is since I can only spare the time to work with a handful of guys, I only want to work with people who are serious and really want to get well, and who are committed to working on their recovery for the long haul. Most sexual addictions don’t just occur overnight – they develop over decades of habitual unhealthy sexual behaviors rooted in a faulty belief system that started in early childhood. So we measure real progress in terms of months and years, not days and weeks. Ideally, we’d work together for at least a year. But 6 months is an absolute minimum before you can expect to see some real progress being made.
My counseling sessions are conducted entirely by phone. Which, believe it or not, actually has a lot of advantages over face-to-face sessions. In addition to going through and discussing the same workbook exercises that I used in my recovery to get well, you’ll also have me as your sponsor and internet accountability partner.
So that’s my offer. If you want the best help available, from someone who’s actually been there and walked the walk you’re about to take, then I’m here and willing to help.
If you’d like to talk about this further, or if you’re ready to start right away, call me directly at 678-357-5779. If you’re still not sure, then I suggest you watch the video below. It’s of me and my ex-wife talking about the devastating effects of what can happen when you take this too lightly and don’t take action. Please don’t make the mistake of putting this off any further.
Trust me, coming from a guy who lost his wife and family over this, there’s a lot at stake here. That may not seem inevitable to you right now – the idea that you could lose out big time by continuing to ignore this problem. But with time and the right kind of work and effort, you’ll start to come out of this fog and see things more clearly. While I can’t make you want to get help, I can tell you that whenever you’re ready, I’m here to help. But it’s really up to you what path you decide to take.
Do you want to fix this problem and end up with better version of yourself, a far better marriage and a healthier family and relationships as a result? Or would you rather have a story like mine below?
© 2004 North Point Ministries, Inc.
//
<img src=”https://d5nxst8fruw4z.cloudfront.net/atrk.gif?account=7e8Ae1aoiI002d” style=”display:none” height=”1″ width=”1″ alt=”" />
