Well, I can tell you that it takes time, and more than anything the will and desire to stop. It also helps to have others holding you accountable. That can be pretty awkward to ask someone unless you’re already in a sexual addiction recovery group. Then, it’s not so hard because everybody’s kind of in the same boat. Bottom line is you’re trying to break a habit or pattern of behavior, so you need to unpack and understand what your most common rituals or routines are leading up to your acting out (i.e. alone in your dorm room, or alone at home and bored, or stressed out at work and going to the bathroom, etc. Once you’ve identified the most common scenarios, think about how you feel leading up to acting out sexually (angry, bored, stressed out, anxious, etc.). Then, it’s a process of being aware and catching yourself before you go into autopilot mode (that ol slippery slope), and finding a healthy substitute for your masturbation (i.e. change your behavior – take a walk, leave the room, go exercise, phone a friend, etc.).

Don’t mean to over simplify it, but that’s in a nutshell what I did. Took me a few months before I started having victory in that area. And even 12 years into recovery, it’s still something I have to practice and guard against. Hope that helps.